…. one of those moms who thinks their daughter should be singed up to Mensa or something! ” Darrrling, the new substandard school is holding my daughter back! *she moans in overly posh Buckinghamshire accent and a jokey roll of the eyes*
Connies first school report came back yesterday, and its great… but its a copy and paste jobby nothing too personal and as far as I can see she’s not made much progress from when she was 3 years old apart from learn some new words and how to get an attitude of a 14 year old!
The weird thing is, I belive that YES education is massively important and YES it helps to be bright BUT I know it’s the ones who don’t get the A’s, the ones who get expelled and ditch the GSCE’s for another opportunity who break the the restrictive box / rat race / the boring path that school is designed to set in place. I don’t want my kids to feel that if they don’t make grammar school their life is over… so why am i being like this??
Since Connie went to school in September we’ve felt that they’ve not seen her true potential and not given her a chance to progress at all. What annoyed me the most is they didn’t even know she could read before she started school and it took me to being ‘one of those parents’ to finally say something’:
Parents evening – December 2010
Teacher: Connie is learning to blend her words this term’
Me ‘ um, you know she can already read don’t you’
My HEAD: Connie has been blending her words since she was 2 and a half.. she can read for fucks sake she’s been in your class for 3 months, how can you not know that??!!!
Teacher: Oh, really well maybe I’ll have her sit down with me and we’ll see if she can’
Me: Yes that would be good, thank you’
My HEAD: Erm, was it me or was that patronising – I am not one of ‘those moms’ she really CAN read you know!
Teacher : Connie has been learning numbers and she can now count up to 20.
me: *Through gritted teeth * Connie has done that since she was 3 and actually can count up to 100, and yesterday surprised me by counting backwards FROM 100!
Teacher: Really, *in a very surprised way*
My Head: she thinks I’m one of those moms, I should drop this now, does it really matter, she’s only 4… Ugh I don’t know, am I failing her being laid back about this?
1 week later we get her first reading book – So that was worth the push… only 3 months too late mind!!
I have to admit, Bon Bons teachers are actually lovely, warm, caring and do what they have to do within their large class of 30, small budgets and confinements of a governed box!
I know we were spoiled by the amazing attentiveness of Connie’s pre school (Wise Owl Montessori) where she went from 2 years old . From the moment she started they saw Connie loved learning and right away they had her doing her letters. By 2 and half they had her reading words. She really genuinely loved it – we never pushed her and I’ve never really had to teach her anything, she sort of teaches herself. Before she was 3 we found she’d written her name on her blackboard, I thought she’d learnt it at pre-school, but it turned out they had never taught her that, she just did it on her own.
Now we are past the basics of reading and writing, I have the fear that it’s up to me to teach her!!! Can someone pass the Gin now please! The thing is, I can hardly spell so how am I ever going to teach her anything? At 4 years old she’s brighter than me already!
I’m thinking private school… because I’m fearful I can’t give her what she wants and hate the fact that her school is going to try to keep her average and I don’t want her to be ‘average’. But then again I don’t want her to be an A grade square box whose only ambition in life is to ‘get a good job’ either … And let’s be honest, I like driving nice cars – private school will put an end to that… *sigh*
umm i’m mixed up hu!